Day 24: Dare to Allow Your Heart to Connect and Your Mind to Engage with Others
Making yourself available to others is scary. And I am not just talking about romantically, I am speaking about relationships in general. It is very uncomfortable to allow yourself to be vulnerable, to open yourself up to someone else. Sometimes a certain level of trust needs to be established before you feel safe to do so. And sometimes the easy way out is to not allow anyone in at all. It is so much easier to not let others in, to close yourself off. I believe the common thought is that any potential for future hurt or pain from that person can be avoided if we close ourselves off. And while we may avoid being hurt by others we are hurting ourselves by not allowing those relationships to form.
I speak for myself in writing this. I prefer to keep a lot of things quiet or at least keep it in for a long time, much longer than necessary. This blog has helped me get some things out in the open somewhat. Still, it is easier hiding behind words on a computer screen. And to be honest, starting this blog was a scary experience. It is not as hard as it used to be the more I write and the more I share with you guys. Each post is one step further away from my comfort zone, but I can feel it helping in so many ways.
God’s plan for each of us was not to be alone. And again, I am not talking about marriage here, although that is very good as well. When God created Adam, he knew he should not be alone. He had given him everything in the Garden of Eden, yet God saw the need for another person to join him. The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man (Genesis 2:18-22).
God saw the importance of relationships that day in the garden. He saw how much we need each other to share life’s burdens, to encourage and support one another. Maybe you do not have a problem sharing with your family or even sharing with the public through writing, but when it comes to your church family and even your friends in person, it’s easier to close off. Those of us that are blessed with having a church family and good friends in our lives, do not shut them out. They are there with open arms and open hearts waiting for you to take the first step. Share with them your story, pray with them, study with them, it will get easier the more you do it. Think of the weight that will be lifted when you begin sharing with others. Maybe you’ve been hurt in the past by someone close to you and your level of trust for others takes longer to build. Just take it one day at a time, one step at a time.
Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
*photo from kurtbubna.com